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Should a woman take a man’s last name in marriage? (poll)
Should a woman take a man’s last name in marriage? (poll)

by Dana Gornitzki

The modern era can be most confusing. Not too long ago, when getting married a woman would not question dropping her maiden name to take on her husband’s surname - it was just accepted. Now, in many parts of the world, it’s a woman’s prerogative and a matter discussed between the newlyweds.

However, in Japan, there is an interesting case where a group of women recently filed a challenge to a 19th century law that forces females to drop their maiden names and take on their husbands’ surnames when they marry.

In the name of choice, the plaintiffs are demanding that the law be changed as well as asking for six million yen in damages for emotional distress.

What is your opinion? Take a peek at the poll so we can see if good old-fashioned tradition trumps modern choice.

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I’d take on my husbands name. As a woman you always have a man’s surname and I’d rather have my huband’s than my father’s.

Interestingly my brother took on his wife’s name when they got married as a pro-feminist statement.

  • Lena
  • 11 Mar, 2011
  • 1:28 pm

Lena, thanks for your comment. I agree, one’s last name is very personal and something that in marriage connects two people (and their offspring). In the modern era, we are lucky to have the choice; you would take on your husband’s last name, your brother took on his wife’s surname (which is so fun), and others choose to keep their maiden name or combine both surnames to make a new one - it’s a beautiful thing!

  • Dana
  • 11 Mar, 2011
  • 5:26 pm

It\’s up to the woman really. As a man I\’d prefer my gf to take my name if we get married because I see marriage as starting a family and its part of the commitment to each other. Although if she wanted to add my name to hers I wouldn\’t really Mind, as long as our kids took my name, because all the kids I ever went to school with that had 2 surnames hated it.

Also, if I had a terrible surname I wouldnt make her take it, I\’d ditch it and take hers. No reason to be stupid about it :P

  • Ash
  • 04 Mar, 2012
  • 11:44 am

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